How to Build Emotional Education in Your Children

Through proper Emotional Education, You can teach your children Emotional Intelligence to be a good citizen, while ensuring future happiness.

You teach your children to cross the street when the fire is green, take care of their pets, read and count, and even recycle the trash in the house but you never Develop Emotional Intelligence among them.

But, do you also teach them to express their feelings, to say out loud what they feel before they lock themselves in their room by slamming the door?

Education is not just about filling an empty mind by accumulating knowledge and data.

Educating also means offering strategies that make it possible to rule in this complex world, to learn to be happy while making others happy.

It is vital to value your children's emotional Intelligence as a goal that needs to be addressed every day.

Nowadays, educational centers have not integrated this dimension into their academic curricula.

However, it is essential that, from very young, we can discover these important aspects of life, which we will explain later in this article.

How to Be Successful In The Emotional Education of Your Children

The education of our children begins from the first day they arrive in the world because to educate is also to give love, caresses, words, and rules.

It is also transmitting habits such as the time to eat, the time to sleep, but also a smile in which children see and imitate later.

Emotional education is the voice that gives them courage and support and provides them with safety at every step they take, and that reinforcement that encourages them to be strong after each failure or disappointment.

The real adventure comes after 8 years because, at this age, children begin to have schemas about what the world is, and what they are themselves.

They already have a sense of justice and know more or less what is good or what is wrong. From this age, they will establish their personality and their interests.

They will look at the world with a wider curiosity, hence the key we represent to provide support, autonomy and this daily tenderness.

Consider these dimensions as part of your children's emotional education:

Self Knowledge

Children must grow up being the best version of themselves. This means that they must be aware of their potential and their limitations.
Teach them the value of doing things on their own and being empowered so that they can see, day in and day out, what they are capable of doing, what is good for them and what it hurts.

Be very careful not to overprotect them, as you will prevent them from feeling responsible for themselves or having a good self-esteem.

Give them the opportunity to grow at every step they experience, not to mention that every time they make a mistake, you do not have to punish them, but show them how they can do better.

Give Them Responsibilities

A person responsible for herself has emotional maturity. She is someone who does not depend on others to do things and who has confidence in her.
As they grow up, give responsibilities to your children.
They must learn that life is not only rights and freedoms, but that we must all be responsible for our lives to be self-reliant.

Learn To Be Happy But Also Learn Frustration

Since they are small, they must be able to understand that they can not have everything.

Whenever they receive a negative response from you, they must not despair as if it's the end of the world.

Imagine, for example, that your 8-year-old asks you to buy a cell phone.

Obviously, he is still too young for that, so you have to argue and make him understand your disagreement.

If he gets angry, starts banging on the furniture and screams, it's a child who has not learned to accept the frustration, and in the long run, it will make him very unhappy.

Manage these situations appropriately, make sense of it, put boundaries, and make everyone understand each decision you make.

Importance of The Common Good And The "We All Win"

Life is not an island where you are always alone. We all live in a society with others who are part of our daily lives, we build relationships and we grow personally and emotionally with others.

This means that to be successful in the emotional education of our children, we must also work on these dimensions:
  • Encourage empathy, which allows him to recognize the emotions of those close to him (grandparents, siblings, friends, etc.)
  • Understand that if I do something wrong, it affects others. 
  • If I force myself to be respectful, to understand and to make others happy, "we all win".
  • If I offer a smile, the most likely is to be answered with the same smile. The emotions positive are always the most powerful.
  • It is also important to ensure that children learn to be happy themselves, that is to say, to show their passions, to take on new things that bring them knowledge and satisfaction and to know that to love oneself is a powerful weapon.
  • A person with good self-esteem, and with good physical and emotional acceptance, will also be able to love others.
Feel free to put these tips into practice and you will see that you will be successful in the emotional education of your children!